“Close the language door and open the love window.”-Rumi
We do not need to agree on every word to stay in right relationship.
We do not need to share every definition to share humanity.
If a word triggers you, let that word become your teacher instead of a weapon.
If your words trigger someone else, let love remain bigger than language.
Living consciously on a polarity planet means learning to walk with paradox, humility, and discernment — and remembering that underneath every word, what we are really longing for is understanding & connection.
Love doesn’t live in language.
It lives in the frequency sound wave that carries the word into our hearts and minds, penetrating deeper than reactions & projections.
Recently, one word I used in my podcast stirred emotion in my community. Instead of getting defensive or shutting down, I chose something else: curiosity. Because if we want to live consciously instead of sleepwalking through life, we have to be willing to examine not just what we say — but how we hear.
This reflection is an invitation to work with language rather than be ruled by it.
The Trigger Is the Treasure
If you use your voice…
If you teach & lead…
If you transmit ideas…
You will offend someone. Welcome to leadership.
You will undoubtedly offend someone not because you’re wrong, but because words land on lived experience & emotional filters. A trigger is not a failure — it is a doorway. The real question is not, “Why did they say that?” The real question is, “What lit up inside me when I heard it?”
Try this simple exercise:
Take out a piece of paper or your journal and write at the top:
Words that trigger me.
Now list the words or phrases that create an emotional charge in your body. Spiritual language. Political language. Religious language. Healing language. Anatomical language. Anything that tightens your chest or activates your nervous system.
Don’t analyze it yet. Just let the list come.
A Teaching from My Dowsing Mentor
My dowsing teacher Raymon Grace once began a class by saying, “Write down every word that offends you.” Not to shame anyone. Not to argue definitions. But to neutralize the emotional charge.
Because when a word controls your emotional state, it has power over you.
And sovereignty — as I define it — means staying in the driver’s seat of your inner world.
Not plant medicine.
Not church.
Not healing tools.
Not ideology.
Not AI.
You, in conscious relationship with Source.
Look at your list and ask gently:
- What meaning have I attached to this word?
- Where did I learn it?
- Who taught me this emotional reaction?
We don’t argue about words.
We argue about meaning, memory, and identity.
Living on a Polarity Planet
Earth is a polarity planet. Life is paradox. And conscious living means learning to hold contradictions without collapsing into them.
Here are two of my favorite contradictions in the healing arts:
1. Humans must take responsibility for our own wholeness, coherence, and regulation —
and
we need each other.
Both are true.
2. Anything can be a tool for growth —
and
anything can become a distraction.
Plant medicine. Exercise. Healing modalities. Church. Breathwork. Therapy. Crystals. Technology.
All can be tools.
All can become escapes.
The moment something takes you out of the driver’s seat of your life, it stops being a tool and becomes a substitute for sovereignty.
This is why offending people when you have a platform is inevitable. If you speak in favor of something, someone will feel dismissed. If you caution against it, someone else will feel attacked. Because we are not one-size-fits-all beings. The same rules do not apply to every nervous system, trauma history, or soul path.
The Four Agreements and Conscious Listening
One of the hardest spiritual practices is simple but profound:
- Don’t take things personally.
- Don’t make assumptions.
- Be impeccable with your word.
- Always do your best.
It is easy to hear a word and assume we know what someone means. It is easy to project our own story onto someone else’s language.
A more radical practice is this:
Before reacting, ask:
“What do they mean by that?”
instead of
“What do I think they mean?”
This is how we close the language door and open the love window. Have you read The Four Agreements?
Reclaiming Your Power from Words
Return to your list. Choose one word.
Say to yourself:
- This word no longer controls my emotional state.
- I choose discernment over reaction.
- I choose curiosity over defense.
- I choose love over projection.
Being an alchemist of your life requires something most people resist: responsibility.
This is sovereignty to me: taking responsibility for your inner world, triggers interpretations, projections.
Your meaning-making.
That is sovereignty to me. Not domination. Not rebellion. Not spiritual ego.
It is simply saying this:
“I will not outsource my inner authority.“